Guest List

Now that the Save the Dates have arrived, the dreaded topic of the guest list has come up again.  We have made multiple drafts on various occasions.  We now have our A list (wouldn't get married without them), B list (would love to have them there) and our C list (not too sure about them).  The problem now is deciding where to make the cuts.  Also, I have recently started  a new teaching job at small school (I only have 8 coworkers).  I have become friends with 2 or 3 of the ladies that I work with and would love to invite them.  However, there are two problems with that:

1.  We haven't been friends very long.  I don't want them to think that I expect them to travel 12 hours from Michigan to New York just to come to the wedding.  And then I don't want them to think that I expect them to not come and still give a gift.  They are just B list people - would love to share the day with them, but it won't be the end of the world if they can't make it.  In fact, as I said it's so far away that I honestly wouldn't expect them to make the trip, but would still love it they did.

2.  I only have co workers.  That means that everyone will know who I invited and who I didn't.  This is my first year there and I don't want to cause any trouble with the groups dynamic.


We don't need a final list until January, but we both find the task overwhelming.   Please share your thoughts and advice. How did you make the cuts?

Guest List

My grandmother needs a guest list for the engagement party.  Dave and I decided the best way to come up with one was to create a draft of our wedding guest list and then decided from there who to invite to the engagement party.  The first step was easy - we both added all of our family to the list.  Next, we each listed friends that we would want to invite.  One problem that we had was whether or not to give someone a plus one.  The other  problem was that as soon as we added one friend to the list, this made us think of another one that we had forgot to invite - the list kept growing.  We decided on just adding everyone for now that we would consider inviting, take a break from it, and then go back to it in a few weeks.

Some guest list etiquette.

Online Surveys & Market Research